If Mitt Romney and his vice-presidential running mate, Representative Paul Ryan, were to win next month’s election, the harm to women’s reproductive rights would extend far beyond the borders of the United States.
In this country, they would support the recriminalization of abortion with the overturning of Roe v. Wade, and they would limit access to contraception and other services. But they have also promised to promote policies abroad that would affect millions of women in the world’s poorest countries, where lack of access to contraception, prenatal care and competent help at childbirth often results in serious illness and thousands of deaths yearly. And the wreckage would begin on Day 1 of a Romney administration.
Willamina, Oregon: Megan and Talina from So Your Engayged
I have always thought a great deal about weddings. The engagement, the ring, dress, the party and, of course, the honeymoon… It has never been so much about the institution itself; it’s the energy, colors and vibrations around it that really draw me in.
No, I don’t need a lecture from my fellow progressives. I am fully aware of how messed up the marriage system is. In fact, I strongly believe that marriage should remain within the church. Only those who have a faith that is worshipped within those walls should claim the religious title of “married” without it relating to social and economic benefits.
But I digress… For years I have been dreaming up the perfect party for all those around me. As a child, I used to sketch entire wedding layouts in notebooks. My mom would encourage me to show my drawings to her friends, all of who thought I was quickly headed for a career in wedding planning.
I took classes at FIT in New York City and learned how to make patterns and sew my own dresses. I even applied to intern with Martha Stewarts Weddings (Luckily that internship didn’t work out for many reasons).
I have no desire to prove my love for my partner solely through marriage though up until the age of 16 I thought you were supposed to do it that way. Yet I do still conjure up different scenario’s – a party in the woods with lanterns and decorated tents or on an island with candles and seashells - and run them by my partner ever so often just to nourish that creative side of me.
But two things are different now. One, I’m not legally allowed to marry the person that I love in this state. On top of that, our domestic partnership paperwork looks much more like a contract that tells us which rights are different from a “normal” marriage. The other, there are no women who look like me when researching weddings.
Don’t believe me? Take a look at J.Crew or The New York Times Wedding Section (of course currently bombarded by pictures of Catherine and Prince William). How many women of color do you see in those pictures?
I know that it sounds silly and unimportant compared to the numerous other things we must fight for as woman, especially as women of color. Yet, I can’t get over how uncomfortable it is to not be able to see myself represented in magazines for women.
No matter how much I don’t agree with the institution of marriage, I still want to be able to see those like me sharing their love. I want young women and men who are as obsessed with drawing wedding images as I was to see themselves represented by people who not only look like them, but are depicted loving someone the same way I do.
White Weddings | Chrys Ingraham
Celebrating the White(washed) Wedding | Beyond the Pale
Bridal magazines seem to think black women don’t get married | Racialicious